Shut the Meash Up

humansofnewyork:

"I think all the pressure that I put on myself has been paralyzing. When I graduated from high school, a lot of people wrote in my yearbook: ‘You’re going to do great things,’ or ‘I know you’re going to make it big.’ I realized recently that with all the time I spent trying to figure out what my ‘big thing’ was going to be, I passed over a lot of small things that could have really added up. The moment I became content with taking small steps, I started moving forward again."
(Mexico City, Mexico)

Really tho. The pressure of those words can hinder people sometimes. We get caught up in looking for something amazing we’ll one day do.. When maybe the smallest things are the “great things”.

humansofnewyork:

"I think all the pressure that I put on myself has been paralyzing. When I graduated from high school, a lot of people wrote in my yearbook: ‘You’re going to do great things,’ or ‘I know you’re going to make it big.’ I realized recently that with all the time I spent trying to figure out what my ‘big thing’ was going to be, I passed over a lot of small things that could have really added up. The moment I became content with taking small steps, I started moving forward again."

(Mexico City, Mexico)

Really tho. The pressure of those words can hinder people sometimes. We get caught up in looking for something amazing we’ll one day do.. When maybe the smallest things are the “great things”.

everyoneisgay:

"What is an appropriate way to out myself in a job interview if they don’t ask the diversity question? Last time, all I could think of was ‘As a gay person, I believe in equality in the workplace and beyond’ but that seemed unprompted and awkward in hindsight."

- Question submitted by Anonymous and answered by Sara Kost as a part of Everyone Is Gay: Second Opinions.

Sara Says: 

Great question! I think there are a few different ways a person can out themselves in an interview that won’t come off awkward or unprompted.

First, please check and make sure you live in a state that has protective laws in place for LGBT people in the workplace. Unfortunately, the federal Employment Non-Discrimination Act hasn’t passed Congress yet, so there is no nation-wide law in place. However, some states, like where I live in Minnesota, have passed laws that protect workers from being discriminated against or fired for identifying as LGBT. If there is no law in your state, it could be detrimental to your potential employment.

When you are applying for jobs, there are ways to hint at your sexual orientation in your resume and/or cover letter. Include on your resume time you’ve spent volunteering with LGBT organizations, leadership roles or internships with LGBT organizations while in college, and clearly spe it out in a Special Skills section if you have one. For instance, using terms like “Cultural Diversity,” “Multicultural Sensitivity,” “LGBT Issues,” or other similar terms can signal to those interviewing you of your orientation, or at least your social justice mind-set. You can also include those terms or out yourself in your summary on your LinkedIn profile if you have one.

In the actual interview, you can answer questions in ways that out yourself, such as you stated above. As long as you practice answering questions this way and are confident in your answer, it won’t come off as awkward. Use examples. Mention any work you’ve done with LGBT organizations, anything you learned in college, or any other life experiences that would be relevant. You can always research common interview questions on the internet, or even ask the company for a copy of the questions they ask so that you can prepare.

Speaking of preparing, that’s another great thing to do before your interview. Research the company you’re applying for a job with and check to see if they have a policy about sexual orientation/gender identity. Come prepared with that information and any other information about the company. You can also ask your interviewer during the “do you have any questions for us” section at the end of the interview what their company’s policy is on sexual orientation/gender identity, or about same-sex marriage benefits, anything like that.

You can always out yourself during the “tell us a little about yourself” section, too. You may want to practice that a few times if you choose to out yourself in that way. Rehearse what you’re going to say, and make sure it sounds good to you. The more prep you can do for an interview, the better!

Plan for it. Rehearse what you want to say. Go into the interview confident that you are prepared, that you are qualified for the position, and gosh darn it, that you deserve a job! Now go rock that interview! 

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This is important… I have been avoiding it altogether in applying for jobs, listing Ashley as my roommate or friend. It makes me cringe and feel icky… And it’s totally not fair to act like she isn’t my one and only, my other half, my support system, my true love…. But living in Mississippi, I’m scared I won’t get a job if I mention that I’m gay… I don’t think there’s any protection from it. Now I feel like an ass for not being try to myself or Ashley. I wuss out when I can out myself. I clam up and say something that puts her in a friend box. Ugh what do I do?! I want to risk everything for her. But my stupid brain goes into fight or flight and it always picks flight, run away from the situation! Call her your “roommate”! Wow, I’m a horrible girlfriend. 

NO MORE. I will from now on list Ashley as my spouse. On job applications. On medical paperwork. On everything.

Sorry baby, I’ve been so stupid.

gay-bondage69:

transschmuck:

cutevictim:

Jesus was a homeless Palestinian anarchist who held protests at oppressive churches, advocated for universal health care and redistribution of wealth, before being arrested for terrorism, tortured and executed for crimes against the state, now go ahead and explain to me why he’d vote conservative. I’ll wait.

i’m sorry that’s just the best sentence i’ve ever read

Canon Jesus is so much cooler than American Jesus.

Jesus wasn’t of the world, especially this current world. He preferred eating with a bunch of people the “righteous” thought were unfit to even be around. He told the priests they were stupid on the daily (not directly of course). And He was called a lunatic! I freakin’ love the hairy, no-nonsense, revolutionary, table-flipping, prostitute-loving vagabond! :)

(Source: cutevictim, via meet-the-lathams)

japril13:

reblog if you’re the gay sister

(via dephl0gisticate)

Willow and Malibeaux leave a message for Ashley and our Tumblr family :)

GET. IT. TOGETHER. PARENTS. SOCIETY. PEOPLE.

(Source: youtube.com, via lilay95)

Hammock snuggles waiting for Papa! She loves this :)))

Willow outgrew her hoodie already :/
She’s getting so big!

Willow outgrew her hoodie already :/
She’s getting so big!

Watching the amazing race like

Me: Aww look at the cute lesbian couple!
Me: Wait… Maybe they’re sisters
Oh but they’re a lesbian couple! How sweet! They look so cute together :)
Me: *reads description* “mother and daughter”
Me: Wtf! …
Me: They’re DEFINITELY a lesbian couple!
Me:
Me:
Me: Babe, which ones are gay! Help!
Ashley: Baby, I don’t even know.